[This was stuck in my wordpress unpublished queue, and i just noticed it. i suppose i wrote it sometime in mid february while making memorial plans]

Other people’s ideas of death rituals are… ritualistic. What they don’t seem to understand is that the ceremonies and customs and mores and whatever else they attach to their deaths are not necessarily what one might want for one’s self. And by one, I mean my Grandmother.

While she subscribed to a religion, she wasn’t practicing. While she went to funerals, she didn’t like them. She wanted people to have a party, and that’s the plan. She wanted to be cremated with a minimum of fuss.

Other folks keep asking us why we aren’t having a memorial service of some kind. Possibly even religious. Because she didn’t want one. Period.